As anyone who suffers from insomnia can attest, a little bit of self-love goes a long way in helping you catch some Z’s. The flip side is true as well: masturbation also helps you wake up in the morning. According to our survey, the former is much more common.
What gives? How is it possible that masturbating can both help you fall asleep and wake you up? Just what the hell is going on in your brain that’s causing these two seemingly opposite reactions from the exact same activity?
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Does masturbation affect sleep?
As of right now, there is no solid scientific evidence showing a link between masturbation and ease of falling asleep. The only scientific study out there that attempted to determine a link between orgasm and sleep showed that there is no link.
Even though this 34-year-old study claims that there is no link between masturbation and falling asleep, there have been many informal surveys in which the majority of respondents claim that their nightly masturbation ritual is a potent sleep aid. The influence of porn also adds an addictive component to nightly masturbation. As Gary Wilson says “Medical research works at a snail’s pace. With luck we’ll be addressing this in 20 or 30 years … when half the male population is incapacitated.” (Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction)
Melinda Wenner explained the chemical reaction that happens in your brain when you masturbate for NYU’s ScienceLine: “Research shows that during ejaculation men release a cocktail of brain chemicals, including norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, nitric oxide and the hormone prolactin.”
Oxytocin, serotonin, and vasopressin are sometimes referred to as “feel-good” chemicals. They make you feel euphoric, relaxed, and safe. They also have a potent stress-reduction effect. Interestingly, Wenner claims that they are linked to melatonin: “Their release also frequently accompanies that of melatonin,” adds Wenner, “the primary hormone that regulates our body clocks.”
Since the common causes of insomnia include chronic pain, racing thoughts, and an unusual sleep schedule; it seems like orgasms release the perfect chemical cocktail for getting a good night of sleep. There’s nothing worse than trying to fall asleep while you have anxious, negative thoughts swirling through your brain. The relaxed feelings and reduced stress associated with masturbation can help turn off your “fight-or-flight” mechanism and help you drift off to sleep with a clear mind.
Why masturbation wakes you up in the morning
So if all of these brain chemicals help make us feel drowsy, then how is it possible that so many people use masturbation to help themselves wake up in the morning?
It turns out that orgasms also release norepinephrine, a chemical that is very similar to adrenaline. Since you’re waking up after a solid 8 hours of slumber, chances are you aren’t going to fall back asleep any time soon so the sedating chemicals that are also released won’t have as much of an effect.
“High sexual arousal states look very much like mindfulness meditation,” Prause says. “We haven’t tested this directly, but there’s every reason to think whatever is improved by such brain states in meditation also could be improved by the very similar brain states seen during high sexual arousal.”
This means that a morning masturbation session can help clear away some of that early-morning grogginess, making it easier to start your day with a clear head.
What is sexsomnia (masturbating while asleep)?
Sexsomnia is a type of parasomnia (abnormal activity that occurs while you are asleep) that causes you to act out sexual activities during non rapid eye movement (NREM) sleep. These activities can include sexual intercourse, fondling, and masturbation.
Masturbation during sleep was first reported as a clinical disorder in 1986, when a 34-year-old man was reported to masturbate until climax every night after falling asleep even though he had sexual intercourse with his wife each night while still awake.
One of the weirdest aspects of sexsomnia is that a person suffering from this condition may have their eyes open while engaging in the sexual activity, giving the indication that they are awake. Upon closer examination, however, their eyes will appear glassy and vacant because the individual is unconscious and not aware of their actions.
Causes of sexsomnia
Sexsomnia can be caused by some of the following:
- sleep deprivation
- pre-existing parasomnia behaviors
- drug and alcohol consumption
It’s well-known that sleep deprivation can have devastating effects on your brain and behavior. Being sleep deprived for extended periods of time can cause your neurons to malfunction, which directly affects your behavior. Neurons are not capable of regenerating while sleep deprived. The different stages of sleep have different roles to play in neuron regeneration. Some physically regenerate your neurons while others generate new synaptic connections and form new memories.
Can Ambien cause you to masturbate while asleep?
Zolpidem, sold under the brand name Ambien, is a sedative-hypnotic drug that is prescribed to patients suffering from insomnia. Sexsomnia is an adverse affect of the prescription medication.
W. Christopher Winter, M.D., president of Charlottesville Neurology and Sleep Medicine and medical director of Martha Jefferson Hospital Sleep Medicine Center claims that Ambien is in fact the most common cause of sexsomnia. He says that in many cases sexsomnia ceases when his patients stop taking sleeping pills. If you frequently masturbate while asleep and you take Ambien or any other prescription sleeping medications, it would be wise to talk to your doctor.
Resources if you’re struggling with masturbation addiction
While nightly masturbation may not be a problem for most people, for some it can cross the line into a full blown addiction. If you feel like you need to masturbate to fall asleep or wake up in the morning then that could be a sign of an addiction.
Signs that you may be addicted to masturbating include:
- You hate yourself afterwards (self-loathing)
- It’s interfering with your work, school, or relationships
- You’re having problems with daily functioning
- It’s become a way of managing your negative moods
- You’re doing it even when you don’t feel sexual
- You feel guilty about it
- You don’t want to do it anymore
How to stop a masturbation addiction:
- Practice mindfulness. Meditation and other mindfulness practices can help you to realize that you don’t have to let your random thoughts and impulses control you. We recommend the Practical Meditation for Beginners book.
- Find a new hobby. Cultivating a new skill that takes a long time to learn can refocus your brain and help you appreciate delayed gratification. Cooking, dancing, archery, public speaking, and others are all good skills to learn that can help teach you the benefits of delaying gratification, something that people who chronically masturbate have a problem with.
- Be creative. This may not apply to women, but men have known for thousands of years that you can channel your sexual urges into creativity. Whether you’re interested in writing, painting, music, or anything else that gives you the feeling of being productive you’ll find that your sexual urges will be much less intense.
- Make an appointment with a medical professional. If your masturbation addiction is causing severe problems with your daily functioning you should probably schedule an appointment with a therapist who specializes in addiction. It might be embarrassing at first, but realize that you’re talking to a professional who deals with these types of cases on a daily basis. Therapists see patients with your problems all the time and they won’t judge you.
Resources if you are addicted to porn
Porn addiction and masturbation addiction often go hand-in-hand. Recent research shows that excessive porn consumption can have a harmful effect on your brain, so it’s imperative that you treat your compulsion if you want to return to functioning normally.
Signs that you’re addicted to porn
- Your sex life becomes unfulfilling
- Your social life is starting to suffer
- You no longer engage in hobbies you enjoy just so you can watch more of it
How to break a porn addiction
- Psychotherapy. Speaking with a mental health professional can help you understand your underlying motivation and give you the tools you need to break the habit. Many porn addicts undergo cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), which can help you identify problem areas in your life and learn ways to cope with and eventually overcome them.
- Treat any physical damage. If you’ve been watching porn so excessively that you’ve caused damage to your penile skin we recommend using Man 1 Man Oil to help recover.
Other ways to help
- CBD – Many people use CBD to help themselves relax and fall asleep. You can reduce that inner turmoil that causes you to head over to PornHub night after night. We recommend using a tincture or gummies a few hours before bedtime.
- Sleep Trackers – You can’t treat your problem without accurate data. Get cutting-edge information on how long it takes for you to fall asleep, how often you wake up, when you go to bed, your sleep stages, and more. Once you have the data you can come up with an action plan to solve your addiction and get some sleep.
- Get a Better Mattress (we recommend the Amerisleep AS5) – Uncomfortable beds cause us to seek other ways to distract our minds. If you’ve ever found yourself tossing and turning on an uncomfortable bed you may end up going back to porn in an attempt to distract yourself from the uncomfortable nature of your sleeping environment.
The bottom line: Does masturbating help with sleep?
So there you have it. This is everything we know so far about how masturbation and sleep are linked. Unfortunately, there have been very few scientific studies done on this topic. For some reason I doubt that researchers are excited about studying this sometimes unsavory topic. As previously mentioned, the most recent scientific paper about masturbation and sleep is from all the way back in 1985.
If any more modern research emerges we’ll be sure to update this article accordingly. Until then, rest easy knowing that your nighttime and/or morning masturbation ritual is perfectly normal and healthy.